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A couple of years ago, I found my autistic child locked in a small cold cement cell at his school. The cell had no windows, no furniture, and was slate gray with low lighting. The cell was also sound proofed so parents and teachers outside wouldn’t hear him crying. I am writing this blog as a campaign to change the way these children are perceived and treated in our society.

Tuesday, January 3, 2012

#31 101 Ways a Teacher Could Help a Child with Autism

Category: General guidelines when dealing with autistic children

Suggestion #31:  Don’t ask them if they want to do something that you need them to do, there is a good chance that they will take you literally .

Often in the English language we say things that we don’t really mean.  When a parent asks their four year child “Would you like to go to the grocery store with me?” – they aren’t really asking the child to make a decision.  Most neuro typical children would pick up on this, and know that even if they said “not really” that they still would have to go with their Mother. 

Language like this can be confusing to an autistic child.  If you ask them if they want to do something that you need to do, what are you going to do if they say no? 

a)      Try to convince them that they really do want to goà they may become frustrated that you are not listening to them when they say that they don’t want to.
b)      Force them to go anyway à they may think you are being cruel for forcing them to do something that they just told you they didn’t want to do.
A clearer thing to say might be “I need to go to the grocery store for dinner and I would like to leave now.  Do you want to leave now, or would you like ten more minutes to finish watching your cartoons?”


  1. I just stumbled upon your blog, and I love it! It's great to virtually meet others who have an autistic child. My son is 5 and was diagnosed with PDD NOS a few years ago. -- I look forward to reading many more blogs. You gained a new follower. *hugs*

  2. Just came across your blog. My son has Aspergers - diagnosed officially last Dec. I look forward to reading more.