Suggestion #29: Avoid power struggles.
This advice is a lot easier to say than it is to do. But, there are ways to avoid power struggles with a child. By finding ways to offer them a choice between activities and other methods, you can avoid putting yourself and them in a head to head contest of wills.
This is just as much for your benefit as it is for theirs as, if you start trying to insist on a certain path with an autistic child, you may find that their determination can far outpace your own. Avoiding the confrontational situations from the start is preferential as you don’t want them to start to think that you will back down. You also don’t want to have to punish them and hold them down for screaming and thrashing because of something completely avoidable, like you wanted them to have the snack after the play ground break instead of the other way around. If you aren’t careful and are too rigid, you might end up with those types of incidents.
I am going to come back to this blog and add some links on additional methods to avoid power struggles. In the meantime, please offer your thoughts in the comment section below.